Should I call the police?

lacychang · 发表于 2014-8-31 10:59:54

本帖最后由 lacychang 于 2014-8-31 11:45 编辑

Hello everyone. Today I had a little conflict with some rude teenagers in the park. Here is the detail. My baby ran to the audience seats besides the soccer field where many young men were playing soccer. I noticed one teenager in the audience was talking about my baby rudely. The others were just peeking me to see my reaction. Evidently, they thought I did not understand English. When the boy said, "The baby is wearing f``` Nike shoes!" I spoke up,"Please be respectful. I heard you. Do not do this to a kid and her mother!" The boy talked back,"What did I do? I did not do anything!" Then a young man playing soccer came up,"Yeah, do not do that." I thought finally somebody stood up. However, It turned out he was just teasing me because subsequently he said sarcastically,"Call the police." All the other boys were laughing relentlessly as if it were funny. Needless to say, I was speechless and humiliated.

As a mother, I hate myself who could not properly defend my baby who does not understand the cruelness of the world. To be honest, I burst into tears right now because I could have done something different which I failed to do at that time. I should have taped what they said as evidence. I could have asked the boy if he would have done the same thing to his neighbors or if he had known I understand English. I could have asked the young man if that was what he learned from his parents how to treat a mother. I could have asked the other boys who remained silent or laughed along how they would react if their mothers were humiliated in the public.
Here is my question: should I call the police in that situation? If I do so, shall I tell the police they were insulting us? Should I tape our altercation? If you were in my position, what would you do?

lamjin · 发表于 2014-8-31 11:09:41

you're too sensitive.

lacychang · 发表于 2014-8-31 11:11:14

2# lamjin I knew you were going to say so.

lacychang · 发表于 2014-8-31 11:12:35

本帖最后由 lacychang 于 2014-8-31 11:14 编辑

2# lamjin What would you do? Pretend nothing has happened?So calling the police is not an option?

lacychang · 发表于 2014-8-31 11:21:10

If they do not speak the same way to their parents and neighbors, how come they did so to us? Is that racism?

lacychang · 发表于 2014-8-31 11:24:25

Sensitive as I am, I do not understand how the teenagers here act in such bad manners to strangers.

lamjin · 发表于 2014-8-31 11:24:26

what did your baby do there?

lacychang · 发表于 2014-8-31 11:30:52

She just climbed up the stairs and sat, which was what she does as usual. She faced the audience and beamed happily. I can assure you my baby did not make a scene at that time. In her mind, the world is full of sunshine, which I wish could be true.

lacychang · 发表于 2014-8-31 11:35:52

My little one can only utter a few words such as Mama, Daddy and hello. She always says hello to whoever she meets.

lacychang · 发表于 2014-8-31 11:42:13

I feel better now that I have such an outlet for my anger. Just telling the story cooled me down a little bit.

life007 · 发表于 2014-9-2 10:11:58

本帖最后由 life007 于 2014-9-2 10:14 编辑

It's true that some teenagers are very impolite and rude in Montreal. They always say fuck to their friends or classmates. I saw one of my female classmate(17 or 18 years old) show her middle finger to the other boy who was sitting behind her just because that guy made some noises in the classroom.

lacychang · 发表于 2014-9-2 10:59:12

11# life007 [/bThank you for sharing your experience. I felt uncomfortable when those kids were rude to us.

流星蝴蝶 · 发表于 2014-9-9 10:22:28

For me, always keeping a distance from a group of teenagers and drunk people is what I can do to prevent such bad things from happening.

calgaryman · 发表于 2015-1-4 02:32:58

be straight to tell them to fk off stay clear,遇到事情，我没有那么多耐心。

ashima15 · 发表于 2015-1-4 05:00:51

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蓝色薄荷 · 发表于 2015-1-5 09:06:36

楼主的遭遇，可以有多个应对场景。

1，妈妈预感到那些青少年很可能不良，提前带孩子离开那个区域。

2，听到青少年的不礼貌话语，保持冷静，带孩子离开。  （不妨把那些人当做醉汉，你不会和醉汉理论半天要求其道歉是吧，离开为妙）

3，听到青少年的不礼貌话语，火气上来，质问和试图教育对方，希望对方的三观因此得以改变，得到真诚道歉。  结果，得到的往往是对方的嘲笑，而且你越生气，对方越兴奋。

4，听到不礼貌言语，走到对方面前直视对方的眼睛，说：say it again. 对方一怔，又说了一遍。旋即被女超人掐脖子举起双脚离地，直到脸红脖子粗翻白眼才被丢到地下。  下次再见到楼主和宝宝在公园，这厮吓得脚底抹油~~~

5，听到不礼貌言语，走过去问对方是否刚才在和我女儿说话，对方说不是。女士带孩子离开。对方若说是又怎样？女士问你和我女儿说了什么？为什么要那样说？你觉得我女儿怎么怎么样吗？你想要怎样？总之是套出对对方不利的关键言语。只要对方一犯傻说出来，立刻掏手机报警说自己及孩子受到人身威胁。同时另一只手握住一小瓶辣椒水之类的以防对方动粗。这样处理需要具有一定法律专业知识，而且要做好花时间和警察及法官交涉的准备，理想结果是不良少年被法官处理，社区劳动多少小时、不许靠近该女士及孩子、送进少管所之类的。但这真的是我们希望的解决途径吗？

蓝色薄荷 · 发表于 2015-1-5 09:12:47

楼主觉得上面哪种方式最简单（有效）？哪种最爽快？哪种是扯淡？

lacychang · 发表于 2015-5-28 14:59:54

本帖最后由 lacychang 于 2015-5-28 15:02 编辑

蓝色薄荷发表于 2015-1-5 09:12
楼主觉得上面哪种方式最简单（有效）？哪种最爽快？哪种是扯淡？ ...

You are so funny. Sorry for such a delayed reply cause I haven't been on this forum for a long time. That unpleasant incident has already faded as time passes by. Still, thank you for shedding light on it. As I reflected back, I was not in a good mood at that time, so that I was provoked by a few nasty teenagers, which was a shame. I hope no matter what happens, as a parent, I can keep my cool.

蓝色薄荷 · 发表于 2015-5-28 19:22:55

lacychang 发表于 2015-5-28 14:59
You are so funny. Sorry for such a delayed reply cause I haven't been on this forum for a long time ...

No, it's not a shame because I totally understand your feeling and because those villains need to be taught a lesson. That's why movies like Spiderman and Batman are so popular. We do need somebody other than the police to protect the innocent and beat those bastards, don't we?

kittygirl0070 · 发表于 2016-1-20 12:11:25

Just like Lamjin said, you were way too sensitive, listen to the man.

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