儿子受到种族歧视，那么小的孩子为什么这样？
本帖最后由 檀香 于 2011-3-11 02:17 编辑2月24日，儿子忍不住告诉我一件事，还没张嘴，眼泪就流下来了：“上次我对你说，有个白人小孩不让我踢足球，不是因为人满了，而是他不让中国人参加。”他说，那个白孩自己带球，黑人孩子可以加入，一旦有亚洲面孔的同学要参加，他就问从哪里来的。回答是Korea来的，让参加，回答是Hongkong和Taiwan来的，也让参加，就是不让回答China的参加。有中国同学想加入，那白人小孩就说：“Go!”或“Get out of here!”我生气地问儿子：“他也是这样对你说的吗?”儿子说他对他说的是“No！”我不相信，反复问他，他都强调说：“我问：'Can I play?' 他说：'No.'”两次受挫后，又看到其他中国同学被粗暴拒绝，他就不再问了。那个白孩不是他班的，儿子说他现在只跟自己班的同学玩，他说：“他们都对我很好。”
之前的一段时间，儿子要带足球，说是有同学不让他踢，并告诉我：“不是不让我参加，而是他们人满了。”我也没当回事，因为我知道儿子人缘好，很多同学都喜欢他。原来他隐瞒了真实情况。我问他为什么不对我说实话，他说：“我怕你伤心，不想连累别人”。可怜的孩子，这么小就学会了自己承担。
前一天（2月23日）正好是Pink Shirt Day，是反对bully的。我当时看到报纸（Newsleader, Feb 23,2011)上有帮助家长对付孩子被欺负的资料，只保存下来，并没细看，还觉得儿子身边没有这个问题。现在我把报纸上的建议教给儿子：“What should children do? Do not answer back with verbal violence. Ignore the insults by walking with your head up high. ”并告诉儿子有些白人恨华人，或许是因为温哥华房价的问题。我告诉他，下次再发生类似种族歧视的事，一定要告诉我，不要自己憋在心里，我说：“你看，我帮你分析一下，你不就感觉好多了吗？”儿子本身就是个乐观的孩子，哭完了，说完了，就又到一边快乐地玩去了。
只是不明白，一个小学四年级的白人孩子为什么就知道歧视华人？谢谢诸位朋友！
资料：
http://josephgould.ddsbschools.ca/school-events.html
Pink Day
On Wed., Feb. 23 Joseph Gould is celebrating Pink Shirt Day. Pink Shirt Day provides an opportunity for school communities to collectively stand up against bullying. It's an opportunity for all members of the school community to send a common message.
This idea comes from two incredible Nova Scotia high school students. Here is a snippet of the Globe & Mail article which inspired this event:
“David Shepherd, Travis Price and their teenage friends organized a high-school protest to wear pink in sympathy with a Grade 9 boy who was being bullied… took a stand against bullying when they protested against the harassment of a new Grade 9 student by distributing pink T-shirts to all the boys in their school.
‘I learned that two people can come up with an idea, run with it, and it can do wonders,’ says Mr. Price, 17, who organized the pink protest. ‘Finally, someone stood up for a weaker kid.’
So Mr. Shepherd and some other headed off to a discount store and bought 50 pink tank tops. They sent out message to schoolmates that night, and the next morning they hauled the shirts to school in a plastic bag.
As they stood in the foyer handing out the shirts, the bullied boy walked in. His face spoke volumes. ‘It looked like a huge weight was lifted off his shoulders,’ Mr. Price recalled.
The bullies were never heard from again
If you don't have a pink shirt, that's ok. Just wear something pink to show your support.
http://www.bgc-gv.bc.ca/tips.asp
Bullying
Do you know if your child is being bullied? Here are some signs to watch for: Feelings of rejection, low self-esteem, poor grades at school, isolation, withdrawal from group activities at school and outside of school, aggressiveness, nervousness, extreme sensitivity, fear or refusal to go to school.
What is bullying? Psychologists define bullying as a power relationship carried on by one individual or a group of individuals towards another person. Bullying does not necessarily need to be brutal or of physical violence. Rumours, threats and hurtful words also lead to feelings of rejection.
What does bullying look like? Teasing, hair pulling, pushing, pinching, touching without consent, insulting somebody by making crude, sexist, racist or homophobic remarks, spreading rumours, threatening looks, unsightly gestures, writing unpleasant things about somebody (on paper or by email), threatening or scaring somebody, stealing, “taxing” (extortion of money and personal items).
Targets for bullying: Choice of clothing, physical differences or faults (fast, slow, big or small development), distinctive characteristics of parents (different education from other parents of the region, religion, origin, language), nutritional habits, speech impediments, introverted personality, solitary person.
What should children do? Do not answer back with verbal violence. Ignore the insults by walking with your head up high. If you witness bullying towards another student, it is best to immediately refer what you have seen to an adult.
What should parents do? Discuss the problem with your child and try to obtain the name of the bully. Discuss the problem with the teacher and the principal of the school. Advise the child, but try not to do everything in his or her place. Guide the child towards out-of-school activities. Do not encourage verbal or physical violence as a suitable means of defense. Do not trivialize the problem. Take it seriously! (Source: Mia Lambert, Jeunesse J’ecoute and Annie Fernandez, Le Journal de Quebec) 应该是那家伙家庭的影响。这类人还是少数，至少表面如此。
你儿子确实挺容易交朋友的，不搭理那小子就是了。还可以跟老师或校长提一下这事。 应该是那家伙家庭的影响。这类人还是少数，至少表面如此。
你儿子确实挺容易交朋友的，不搭理那小子就是了。还可以跟老师或校长提一下这事。
FCH 发表于 2011-3-9 06:12 http://www.ourdream.ca/forums/static/image/common/back.gif
我儿子后来见到白孩，还大度地跟他说Hi，但白孩不理他。我就说：“以后你也别理他了。”
我原来也想：是不是应该向校长反映一下？我明白了。 :wdb611:
如果这事儿出现在大人当中，尤其在单位里，够那白人吃不了兜着走的！
可以告他种族歧视。
但出现在小学里，还真不知有何种法律条文加以制约。8-)
我觉得这种事应该有个说法，有人管。 因为那孩子的做法伤害了别人。 有一集汉娜蒙塔娜的剧情让我感觉到，学校的校长应该还是会秉公执法的。。。 :wdb611:
如果这事儿出现在大人当中，尤其在单位里，够那白人吃不了兜着走的！
可以告他种族歧视。
但出现在小学里，还真不知有何种法律条文加以制约。8-)
我觉得这种事应该有个说法，有人管。 因为那孩子的做 ...
蓝色薄荷 发表于 2011-3-9 07:27 http://www.ourdream.ca/forums/static/image/common/back.gif
同意！
写封邮件吧，学校会暗中处理
这样的事小孩不要受委屈 不要下一次了！马上就去学校反映，要把你的担心和愤怒、孩子的委屈最大限度的表达出来，越激烈越好！不是态度激烈，而是口气要激烈，不然人家不明白你和孩子的感受，只有让校方明白了，才会有效处理。以前说过我女儿也遇到过相同问题，校方处理得很满意。 一定不要忍！！！你忍了，你中庸。可鬼子就认为你好欺负，你越厉害，他越怕你。咱不欺负人，可也不能让别人欺负。不给他一个反手痛击他不会认识中国人。 有点担心
做父母的，总是有操不完的心啊
比较赞成枫叶的做法 支持你投诉 『支持』投诉 谢谢大家！
我有时想，人家不愿跟你玩，就算了，我们也不在乎他，他也有他的自由。
我发帖的目的之一，也是想让别的家长了解一下这种情况。我会跟校长交流，以免学校再发生排斥、伤害中国孩子的情况。 『洋葱头T13』咱一边投诉，一边也不理他，我呸！ 一定要找校方，不能忍！ 过分。不搭理他，自己找几个小朋友组个足球队，行不行？ 看了LZ儿子的遭遇，心酸酸的，眼泪要流出来了。你儿子很乐观，还大方，都能受到伤害。可偶家女儿就内向，心思敏感看到LZ儿子的遭遇，立即想到自家孩子，心疼。不要忍，移民是为了让孩子有个更好的一片天地，绝不能让孩子有心理阴影。『慰问』 过分。不搭理他，自己找几个小朋友组个足球队，行不行？
月明 发表于 2011-3-9 11:09 http://www.ourdream.ca/forums/static/image/common/back.gif
没问题的。不过，他自己班的孩子都玩网球，我就给他买了网球。 看了LZ儿子的遭遇，心酸酸的，眼泪要流出来了。你儿子很乐观，还大方，都能受到伤害。可偶家女儿就内向，心思敏感看到LZ儿子的遭遇，立即想到自家孩子，心疼。不要忍，移民是为了让孩子有个更好的一片天地，绝不能让 ...
sweetvictor 发表于 2011-3-9 11:52 http://www.ourdream.ca/forums/static/image/common/back.gif
要留心孩子的心理活动。他要自己带足球时，我都没看出来。那天要不是因为说另一件事，也不会引出这件事来。 歧视和偏见在加拿大是违法的,但经常存在我们的周围.我想每个人都会遇到这种问题,要正视他,我们是否习惯维护自己的人权!以前一个janitor说过:中国人爱将究!这话挺触动我的,咱们的忍让含蓄适合在中国!这里不合适!!
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